It has been noticed that adults feel embarrassed to ask for help because it makes them feel vulnerable. The moment children ask for directions, it reveals that they may be lost. Seek the assistance of someone to make them feel like they are broadcasting incompetence.
A new study shows that young children do not seek help in school because of the same reason. Many psychologists assumed that kids did not start to care about reputation and the perceptions of peers until they comes to the age of nine. But in past few years, the time has pushed back against assumptions. A recent study revealed that children under the age of five care about others’ thinking. In fact, kids also start to cheat in simple games to look smart in front of others.
Across several research and studies, we asked about 576 children of ages between four and nine to predict their behavior. As we have noticed that they genuinely wanted to seem smart to others. In another study, we talk to children about those kids who did poorly on tests. Then we asked them if they would like to raise their hand in class to ask for help from the teacher.
Children of age four were likely to choose kids to seek help. But kids of age seven and eight wanted to seem smart and less likely to ask for assistance. Nowadays, expectations of children are truly “reputational” as they specifically think about how characters act in peers’ front.
We found that children in schools recognize several types of behaviors that let children appear less smart on the fronts of other kids. Therefore, children are acutely aware of these several things in which the action of a person makes them appear less astute in front of others.
Thus, it seems possible that children themselves are struggling, and might avoid asking for help because they are concerned about their reputation. If it is so, their reluctance to ask for help while others are presenting impedes progress in academics. One must do work hard and take on challenging tasks, ask questions when they need assistance. All such efforts seem difficult when people are concerned about their reputation in front of others.
How To Help Children Overcome Such Barriers?
We can make children seeking for help by emphasizing educational benefits in front of them. But it may not aid those children who want to appear incompetent. Research and studies suggest that it may be underestimated how uncomfortable someone feels when they ask for assistance.
Barriers concerned about Instead reputation are likely to require solutions based on the reputation. For example, teachers in schools could give them opportunities to seek help privately that make them available to kids for conversations when students in groups are tackling the group work. Teachers should help students by asking questions in front of other students as normal with positive behavior.
Seeking help should be framed as it is desired socially. After all, it helps and benefits help seekers but also listening to others who have similar struggles and questions. Moreover, parents and teachers could praise children for seeking help or assistance. In response that they value their willingness to ask for assistance or help, instead of effortless success.
Going forward, educational researchers and psychologists evaluate recommendations and develop strategies that push children to pass their fears about the perception of peers. At last, there is one thing to say that teachers and caregivers need to keep their mind clear that children think and are concerned about their reputations, and you should try to manage them n a proper way.